Friday, July 9, 2010

Article 498a Cracked

Introduction to Article 498a:

498a is an Indian law in which a husband and his family are summarily arrested without any investigation when a complaint is lodged by the wife or any of her relative claiming that the husband or his relatives treated her cruelly. Once the complaint is lodged the husband and his family are presumed guilty and it is up to them to prove that they are innocent in a court of law. This law has been under much controversy due to its increasing misuse leading to breakdown of families. It does not cost anything to file a 498A, and there is no penalty (or even a fine) for filing a false dowry complaint which has contributed to a fast rise in the number of such cases in courts today.

Summary:
Wife/daughter-in-law who's demands are not met can make a written false complaint of dowry harassment to a nearby police station. The husband, his old parents and relatives are immediately arrested without sufficient investigation and put behind bars on a non-bailable term. Even if the complaint is false, you shall be presumed guilty until you prove that you are innocent.

498a can only be invoked by wife/daughter-in-law or her relative. Most cases where Sec 498A is invoked turn out to be false (as repeatedly accepted by High Courts and Supreme Court in India) as they are mere blackmail attempts by the wife (or her close relatives) when faced with a strained marriage. In most cases 498a complaint is followed by the demand of huge amount of money (extortion) to settle the case out of the court. This section is non-bailable (you have to appear in court and get bail from the judge), non-compoundable (complaint can't be withdrawn) and cognizable (register and investigate the complaint, although in practice most of the time arrest happens before investigation). There have been countless instances where, without any investigation, the police has arrested elderly parents, unmarried sisters, pregnant sister-in-laws and even 3 year old children. In these cases unsuspecting family of husband has to go through a lot of mental torture and harassment by the corrupt Indian legal system. A typical case goes on for years (5-7 years is typical) and the conviction rate is about 2% only. Some accused parents, sisters and even husbands have committed suicide after time in jail.

Relief: To all my friends suffering from their spouses and their relatives. Indian govt has issued an order to all the police stations, which states "Circular issued to all Police Stations dated 7.7.10 - no arrests u/s 498-a on complaint and compulsory counselling". Now we have some relief and there is an NGO to protect "Husbands" from these cruelties.

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Autumn Spring --- Not-So-Grumpy Old Men

The best movie I have seen in my entire life. The director has given life to the movie by adding lively characters’ and the bond between them. Life after 60 is terrible but the director has narrated in a brilliant way (no words to explain).  

I have written the gist of the movie.

Fanda, the aging hero of Vladimir Michalek's movie, doesn't have it easy. His wife Emilie spends her days collecting and critiquing newspaper obituaries and counting the saved-up Crowns for their funerals. His son wouldn't mind if he moved into a home, and his grandkids are drawing pictures of gravestones with his name on it. There's not much left to look forward to, they all keep reminding him.

But Fanda, played superbly by Vlastimil Brodsky, refuses to go quietly into that dark night. Instead of tending to graves, he plays cheerful pranks on the world. Together with his old actor friend Eda (Stanislav Zindulka), he impersonates wealthy opera stars from abroad and subway inspectors to hustle fancy French meals and pecks on the cheek from pretty girls. When a particularly gutsy prank goes wrong, Fanda needs to find a lot of money fast -- or dip into the money Emilie set aside for their funerals.

Brodsky's performance as the old fool Fanda is graceful and sympathetic, and laced with enough sadness to give his flights into fancy a morbid edge. His levity is bought at a terrible price, and whenever the soundtrack gets too schmaltzy, Brodsky's terminal good humor grounds the movie in our shared fate. Shortly after "Autumn Spring" was completed, the seasoned Czech actor ("Jacob the Liar," "Closely Watched Trains") fell ill and committed suicide.

"Autumn Spring" is the kind of warm, uplifting champion-the-underdog film that studios now try to produce at any cost, a subgenre of world cinema that has been reduced to a formula. Many of these films fail miserably when the sentiment is obviously false.

"Autumn Spring" is the wonderful real deal.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Friday, June 4, 2010

Get married to stay healthy!

We live a healthy life as long as we grow well. When growth slows down, we become old and when this growth stops totally, we die. In life, especially in married life, one has to share. The real purpose of marriage is not enjoyment or procreation, but to grow and share. 

Dr Rajiv Anand, Mumbai-based psychiatrist and marriage counsellor, says, “Every human being has to grow. And growth is possible only when one gets love and care. This happens when there is a steady flow of healthy emotions and certainty of its continuance, no threat of any kind whatsoever. This can happen only in marriage. Moreover, the medium of a healthy relationship is love, which is the best catalyst to help one grow.” 

Ramkishen, 75, was a widower and well-placed in society. Yet he felt lonely and looked for companionship. Despite opposition from his children, he tied the knot with a 65-year-old widow. Ever since the entry of that lady in Ramkishen’s life, his health has improved commendably. His medicine bills have gone down, and now he looks chirpy. 

Unnati lost her husband three years ago and was forced to live alone in Mumbai as her only son lives abroad. She had a host of problems, physical as well as mental -– depression, anxiety and fear psychosis. Lately, she got into a relationship and with counselling she could achieve great success. Today, she is settled in life with glow on her face and minimum visits to doctor. 

“One can enjoy best health when one grows optimally, be it man or woman, and that is where a healthy marriage becomes an important factor for one’s health. The most powerful impact it can have is to help you grow and stretch exponentially as a human being,” adds Dr Anand. 

Scientists have come to the conclusion that married people, on average, appear to be healthier and live longer than unmarried people. Studies have also shown that they are less likely to get diseases like pneumonia, develop cancer or heart attacks. In Sweden, researchers have found that married people have lower risk of dementia. In the Netherlands, it has been found that in virtually every category -- from violent deaths and road accidents to cancer -- the unmarried were at far higher risk than the married. 

Relationships add to the quality of our lives. They increase our horizons and perspectives, augment our resources and open opportunities to overcome challenges. The energy created from an authentic marital relationship carries us through the growth process so that we can emerge as stronger, healthier, better and wiser people. 

However, Dr Harish Shetty, psychiatrist, Dr L H Hiranandani Hospital, Mumbai, feels, “Marriage is traditionally believed to cause good health but not always. What helps is the bonding and may not come necessarily from marriage. Marriages that are difficult may actually destroy health. In a fast paced world, couples are not as relaxed as they were during the agrarian era. Being single may not mean being lonely but just alone. Many couples are married and yet lonely. Nourishment for the mind, body and soul may not necessarily come from marriage and can come from elsewhere.” 

Benefits of marriage 
* Married people have a lower rate of substance abuse and alcohol consumption than unmarried individuals. They have a much lower rate of suicides. 
* Feeling of emotional bonding with spouse strengthens immunity and thus prevents many diseases. 
* Feeling of being wanted and loved enriches one’s body with energy, empowers and strengthens it to cope with many health issues. 
* Feeling of becoming a part of someone’s life adds meaning and energy to one’s life and thus makes it worth living. 
* It is sharing one’s different emotions -- from sorrow to ecstasy -- which is the primary need of every human being. If it gets fulfilled in marriage, then it works more than medicines. If it doesn’t, even medicines won’t work. 
* People who are loved and supported had substantially less blockage in the arteries of their hearts. 

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Simple Surya Namaskar

The simple Surya Namaskar that has been practiced in India for years has recently found a whole lot of takers. 

And if you want a good start to your day, what better than the Surya Namaskar, which is known to have a host of health benefits. There are 12 different poses to do in a Surya Namaskar and you’re known to have finished a complete round when you’ve performed two consecutive sets. 

- You don’t need to be doing yoga regularly in order to practice the Surya Namaskar. If performed correctly, this exercise does not strain or cause injury. If performed in the morning, it relieves stiffness, revitalises your body and refreshes the mind. Do it during the day and it will instantly boost you up, practice it after sundown and it helps you unwind. 

- Not only does the Surya Namaskar give you a great stretch and keep you fit physically (it is extremely beneficial for your joints, ligaments and improves flexibility and posture), but is also does wonders for your mental and emotional health. 

- Surya Namaskar stimulates almost every system in your body - the cardiovascular system because it keeps the heart strong and, the digestive system as well as the nervous system. 

- It also makes endocrinal glands like the thyroid, parathyroid and pituitary glands function normally. 

- Practising the Surya Namaskar regularly is also known to ease stress and give you peace of mind besides increasing your levels of concentration. 

- If you have trouble sleeping at night, the Surya Namaskar will help you fall asleep without using any external stimulants. 

Thursday, May 20, 2010

உலகத் தமிழ்ச் செம்மொழி மாநாடு



The image of saint-poet Thiruvalluvar’s statue in Kanyakumari, lashed by waves caused by the tsunami and encircled by seven icons from the Indus Valley Civilisation, forms part of the logo of the World Classical Tamil Conference to be held in Coimbatore next June.
The logo emphasises the ideal of the mankind that it should always be free of narrow walls of race, creed and casteism. The message is found in a palm leaf manuscript at the bottom of the statue. This concept (“pirapokkum ella uyirkkum”) has been declared the motto of the meet.
The figures of the Indus Valley Civilisation icons, found in the logo, symbolise the Dravidian civilisation, which is regarded as one of the four ancient civilisations, according to an official release.
The number of icons stresses the importance of ‘seven’ in the lives of Tamils.
The list of world Tamil Conferences held so far are listed below:
NoConference NameHost CityHost State/CountryYearArranged by
1First World Tamil ConferenceKuala LumpurMalaysia1966
2Second World Tamil ConferenceChennaiTamilnaduIndia1968C.N.Annadurai, Chief Minister of TamilNadu
3Third World Tamil ConferenceParisFrance1970
4Fourth World Tamil ConferenceJaffnaSriLanka1974
5Fifth World Tamil ConferenceMaduraiTamilnaduIndia1981M.G. Ramachandran, Chief Minister of TamilNadu
6Sixth World Tamil ConferenceKuala LumpurMalaysia1989
7Seventh World Tamil ConferenceMauritius
8Eighth World Tamil ConferenceThanjavurTamilnaduIndia1995J. Jayalalitha, Chief Minister of TamilNadu
9World Classical Tamil Conference 2010[3]CoimbatoreTamilnaduIndia2010M. Karunanidhi, Chief Minister of TamilNadu